Talking about dating online, ‘what you see is not what you get’ is an adage that’s perfectly relevant. Or to put it more precisely, ‘what you get is not what you see’. The Internet is the perfect utopian or virtual world where the most corrupted and perverted of personalities take cover parading themselves as the holiest of souls. It is women more than men who need to be wary about meeting someone they’ve befriended on an online dating website since the opposite sex have always been more vulnerable compared to their male counterparts.
Striking up a rapport with a complete stranger is easier on the net than in the real world, and unfortunately more often than not it is young, single or divorced women who give in to the bewitching charms of cybercriminals and cyberpunks. Of course, nursing a prejudice that every man looking to date a woman is a serial stalker or imposter is exaggerated wishful thinking but that is not to imply that you should drop your guard at the drop of a hat. Keep the following safety tips in mind before you decide on a rendezvous with a perfect stranger.
- Never reveal who you are
There are far too many women who’re gullible enough to reveal everything about selves with a little persuasion. This may sound obvious but never, ever post your real name, contact numbers and location address on the site or disclose your identity the first time you meet.
- Register with an approved or certified dating portal
Crosscheck whether the dating site you wish to sign up with is registered with ODA (online dating association).
- Drive yourself and meet in public
Driving your own car gives you good leverage when you need to curtail your meeting and get away from the scene as quickly as possible.
- Do your own research
Your online dating site to run a background check of users is obviously limited. Hence to be on the safe side, you should conduct your own Google search.
- Keep a friend or family member in the loop
Inform a friend or a member of your family that you’re about to meet someone and have him or her give you a ring during the appointment.